In America, men are 3.5 times more likely to die from suicide than women, and many experts say its because theyre told not to express emotions
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#NotAllMen, says Meryl Streep
Meryl Streep isnt a big fan of the phrase toxic masculinity, apparently. During a recent panel discussion about the new season of Big Little Lies the cast started talking about how many men enjoyed the female-led show; Streep then announced that we hurt our boys by calling something toxic masculinity. Women can be pretty fucking toxic Its toxic people.
We have our good angles and we have our bad ones, Streep continued. I think the labels are less helpful than what were trying to get to, which is a communication, direct, between human beings. Were all on the boat together. Weve got to make it work.
(Excuse me, can someone stop the boat for a moment please? I just need a second while my eyes stop rolling.)
Seriously, Meryl? Seriously? I dont want to label Streeps comments ridiculous, because labels are less helpful than what Im trying to get to, which is the fact Streep clearly has no idea what toxic masculinity means. I shouldnt have to say this, it should be obvious, but toxic masculinity doesnt mean that men are toxic or that masculinity is de facto toxic. Rather, it means that extreme forms of traits traditionally associated with masculinity, like aggression and stoicism, are toxic. Rightwingers, however, like to pretend the phrase is an attack on men because its a quick way of derailing a conversation about rigid gender norms, and allows them to pretend that feminism is some sort of plot against men. Indeed conservative outlets like Fox News are already having a field day with Streeps comments.
We dont hurt our boys by labelling certain behavior toxic masculinity. We hurt our boys when we teach them that being a man means suppressing your emotions and treating women as an inferior species, to be dominated and controlled. And toxic masculinity doesnt just hurt men, it kills them. In America, for example, men are 3.5 times more likely to die from suicide than women a phenomenon many experts attribute, in part, to the fact that men are told they shouldnt express emotion or admit that they feel vulnerable, and therefore are less likely to seek professional help.
Its also well established that toxic masculinity kills women. Women are far more likely than men to die at the hands of their partner, to cite just one example. As a 2018 United Nations global study on homicide notes, Intimate partner violence against women and girls is rooted in widely-accepted gender norms about mens authority and mens use of violence to exert control over women. Research shows that men and boys who adhere to rigid views of gender roles and masculinity are more likely to use violence against a partner.
Streep is right that women can also be pretty fucking toxic. But, again, she misses the point completely; the issue isnt individual women but rigid social norms associated with femininity. Being told that being a woman means being pretty and pure is toxic. Being told that your worth as a woman rests on getting married and having kids is toxic. Being taught to cry and play the damsel in distress to avoid accountability is toxic. Being taught to treat other women as sexual rivals is toxic.
Heres the big difference between toxic masculinity and toxic femininity, however: the latter is a lot less deadly, a lot less dangerous. The difference between toxic masculinity and toxic femininity is that the president of the United States is not a woman who has boasted about grabbing men by their genitals, and dismissed this as locker room talk. The difference is that there arent two female supreme court justices who have been accused of sexual misconduct. The difference is that a group of powerful women are not currently passing legislation preventing American men having control over their own bodies.
The fact that Streep can talk about how toxic masculinity, as a phrase, harms boys at a time when American women are currently facing a full-on assault of their reproductive rights is mind-boggling. The fact that she can blithely say that were all on the boat together when Republicans have made it very clear theyre steering the boat towards Gilead, is infuriating. But at least she stopped her lecture on civility there, I suppose. We can, at least, be grateful that she didnt go on to inform us that All Lives Matter, and we shouldnt focus on labels or race because were all Africans really.
Womens fertility app funded by anti-abortion campaigners
A Guardian investigation has found that the Femm app, which helps women keep track of their menstrual cycle, received large amounts of funding from anti-abortion Catholic campaigners. The Guardian also notes that the Femm apps literature sows doubt about the safety and efficacy of hormonal birth control, asserting that it may be deleterious to a womans health and that a safer, natural way for women to avoid pregnancy is to learn their cycles. Its the latest disturbing reminder that female-focused health apps dont always serve your best interests.
Americas war against abortion continues
On Thursday Louisiana became the latest state to pass a strict new abortion ban.
South Africas historic gender-balanced cabinet
For the first time in South Africas history half of all cabinet posts are now held by women.
Leonardo DiCreepios gross dating habits
Someone on Reddit made a graph showing Leonardo DiCaprio (44) refuses to date a woman over 25. Since 1999 the average age of his girlfriends has been 22.9 years.
The French mens soccer team needs a talking to
The Womens World Cup is around the corner, which is something of a big deal. That hasnt stopped the French mens football team from kicking the womens squad out of the national training camp, just days before the competition gets under way. Nice one, lads.
Accidental sky penis
The US air force has a history of using their fighter jets to draw phallic images in the sky during training exercises. The latest incident was on Tuesday but air force officials have insisted there was no nefarious or inappropriate behavior during the training flight. Rest assured it was simply a cock-up.
In the US, the suicide prevention lifeline is 1-800-273-8255 and the domestic violence hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Other international helplines can be found at www.befrienders.org. In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans can be contacted on 116 123 and the domestic violence helpline is 0808 2000 247. In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is 13 11 14 and the national family violence counselling service is 1800 737 732.
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