‘I had to adjust to life with a different penis’ the pain and positives of an elective circumcision

After a diagnosis of phimosis, I quickly had the operation. The experience was demeaning, comical and extremely painful but Im happy that I did it My doctor was explaining, with some awkwardness, the procedure I was soon to undergo. The skin around your well … when I was at school we would have said bell-end. I was in my mid-20s, and about to have an elective adult circumcision. After experiencing some problems with bleeding and tearing, I had been diagnosed with phimosis, a condition in which the foreskin retracts with difficulty or not at all. It had taken me a while to get to the GP about something that felt somehow shameful but, after diagnosis, everything progressed quite quickly. Before …

Snowflake or tough cookie, youre just hiding from pain | Oliver Burkeman

A life in which nothing could hurt would be one in which nothing could matter We live, or so were constantly informed, in the era of the Sensitive Snowflake, the twentysomething university student who cant hear a vaguely challenging opinion without melting into a puddle of panic. I know Im supposed to dismiss this notion as a rightwing invention, but my reading of the evidence for example, in the recent book Of A Fragile Life and in an episode of the podcast This Is Not A Pipe Original Article : HERE ; The Ultimate Survival Food: The Lost Ways

How to make a friend of your anger

There is no quick fix to anger issues, but working through them can be a journey that sheds light on who we are and how we perceive the world Its easy to feel hijacked by our anger. After all, anger was one of the primary evolutionary feelings: it was designed for survival. It knows only on and off. But this means that once the trigger is pressed, often by a trivial event, we end up in noise and miss out on the detail and complexity of our humanity. Our capacity for empathy is reduced and we want only to survive, hide, hurt, blame or punish. Many people come to me expecting a quick fix or a solution to their anger. …